Carers week!

Innocent people lost their lives this past week, others were injured violently, and still many more were hurt in a way that only few can fathom because most of us have not had the personal experience with weapon crime and losing dear ones in this brutal way.

Based on my friends story a few years ago, her and I came up with a campaign against weapons, 'Knife Crime is Life Time' but it doesn't single out knives as the only weapons that cause severe grief.

The crime, for the survivors, is for life. No matter how much you try to forget, how many hours of therapy, how many spiritual healing sessions, no matter how much you say you forgive - the memory will always be there.

Yet, we get on with life!

My friend is one of the most courageous people I know. Two years on from the brutal stabbing that nearly took her life she is still coping with her ups and downs and with knowing that her stabber could be out in less than three years.

Why do people confine to violence in what seems to be perfectly idyllic places? What tips the load?
Is it just becuase we hear more about it than we used to 50-60 odd years ago so it seems worse now? And the films we watch allow for new ideas of violent behaviour? Or is it in the food and drinks?

Lets face it, our foods and drinks really are stashed with additives with numbers and codes that only pharmaceutical geniuses can decipher and decode. What is it that we eat and drink? What makes us addicts to unhealthy life styles?

And could those additives and GM based changes in fact be affecting our mental health and wellbeing in ways that have not even been considered because the testing of products doesn't account for our individual make up and individual DNA with or without defects...??? How ARE we impacted by substances we don't even know from real life?

I'm sure all of this has been covered in lenghty reports and been commented on in various blogs and news flashes, but in essence I am just emptying my head which has in all fairness been buzzing all weekend. Urging to keep the high spirit and positive outlook without coming across as superficial in a time when people need nurturing and care at a deep level. We are all looking for comfort from each other and a view as we move on and maintain the positivity in our efforts to conquer bad attitude and mental health challenges altogether!

Years ago when asked about the appropriateness of laughing on 11th September anniversaries and other tragedy anniversaries, Dr Patch Adams said that if there was ever a time to laugh it is when we are faced with adversity, tragedy, terrorism, war and other serious crimes agains humanity. This is the time to not falter, the time to keep our spirits high and believe that all good will win in the end.

Laughing doesn't make events less serious, and there is always a time for grieving and respecting the tears and mourning, but laughter does help you move on in life and connects you with those who care.

Let's raise the energy, keep our ligths strong and our hopes high, reminding ourselves that we only lose when we give up. The love and healing we summon, through thoughts and prayers, is for the people who suffered tragic losses last week, the people who suffered in the past and the people who have been hurt badly through time whether it is physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Our global energy of light and love raises the vibration and resonates throughout the Universe to create the change we need - even if it seems far-fetched or perhaps even a slow return on investment. What is there to lose?

Let's care this week!

Let's care again next week, too!

I am a Laughter Ambassador  - and caring is what I do!

Just an observation.

If you read my posts regularly you may have noticed that it has been quite serious stuff lately (perhaps with the exception of last week about 'styling it out')!

Yet it has been about grabbing life and living it with panache and power. About seeing the humour in life and living it light-heartedly. About letting go of 'stuff' that wears you out. About values and appreciation. About lots of things you already know.

So, where was I? Oh yes, laugh along with living - there is nothing better than starting the day on a laughter-high, except perhaps on a love-high but that is a different story and different blogpost, what are you waiting for?!

Take a deep breath into your whole body, drop your jaw and let the belly sounds out, HA HA HA HA! Does it matter if anyone stares? I bet they wish they knew what you know.

Share what you know about laughter and life, give people the gift of a joyful perspective, it all comes down to not feeling precious about it all or too self-conscious in your sharing of the key to longevity with laughter.

Share your laughter and your smiles with the world!

Holding back serves no one and especially not you. So many people crumble because they hold back instead of letting themselves be their own self-expressed natural beings.

Getting back to being serious now... that was not the intention in this blog post. How to get back?!

Laugh, giggle, chuckle, grin, guffaw, smile, smile, smile.

I noticed my neighbourhood people when I was walking up shopping on Saturday morning, it was a beautiful and cold morning, but it didn't seem to matter because the sun seemed to bring out the best in everyone including their smiles.

For the first time in the 11 and a bit years I've lived in the UK I was not the one initiating a smile with walk-passers, they smiled just as much.

I could see the smiles on their faces from a distance and it was just such a life affirming and joyful moment in time to know that other people smile, too, out of free will, and not always because I smile first - although it mostly helps...

But these spontaneous, uninhibited smiles embrace the beauty and abundance in the day.

Smiles are fantastic and contagious, wear a smile and go viral!

Style it out!

What a brilliant expression!

I only heard it the other day when Kat mentioned it on the One-On-One Laughter Coaching Training (which, by the way, is a BRILLIANT training for Laughter Professionals so I have included the link to the details of it).

'Style it out' - what is it all about then?

It makes me laugh out loud just thinking about it!

Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you can feel your cheeks heating up, the stammer is making its way across your lips or even the nervous laughter is on a crash course?

Only because you have bonged a step and stacked it down the stairs, tripped over an invisible stone or burst out something completely inappropriate, made a gesture that only created cringing toes or just been out of place in general?

Well, I do find myself in that situation ever so often, and no doubt a select group of friends will agree that this is what I master to perfection.

I guess being Danish in a British Reservation Area makes me less politically correct than I should probably consider being all things taken into account.

So that do you do?

The answer is right there! Style it out!

You can do nothing to reverse time to the moment before that error or embarrasing event so just go with it and do it in style.

Commit to that cringy mishap and act as if it was the most natural thing to do and not a misconducted gesture.

Style it out!

I love the example in the Urban Dictionary...

I did a Hitler salute, but when no-one laughed I decided to style it out by pretending to scratch my armpit instead

And that is exactly what it's about - so simple! If you near-trip just pretend you are reaching for something you dropped or whichever seems to work for you, it's just a bit of mischief in the daily routine. It is good fun and creative, and it happens in a flick of an eyelash. Of course it works with spontanous misadventures only.

I skip when I trip hahaha - let me hear your stories!

Flood alert!

The UK is faced with storms and flooding at the moment and my heart and thoughts go out to those affected wishing them the best of all in recovering from the destructive forces of nature.

...splish splash...

It is not that type of flood alert I am pondering on this morning, though.

I love watching a good movie, that makes me laugh, smile, bite my lip, cry and laugh some more - that's the best one, although I also like the fast one, the mysterious one, the futuristic one, and the great adventure.

Watching City of Angels last night made me think all good thoughts but I know the moment when it gets to the part I hate because I can feel my eyes welling up and that's when the viaducts open and my eyes overflow only to bring my makeup to a right mess.

It is just a movie but it touches on something that is really deeply ingrained in me and perhaps even in many people, I imagine - the sadness and complete feeling of loss and sorrow when suddenly losing the special people in our lives. The film reminds me of my highest hopes and dreams for being with the man I love, my family and the friends I love but also the thought that our life together may be ending before we even start a wonderful future ahead of us.

My mummy once said to me that we cannot go around being afraid of everything because then we become overpowered by fear and stop living altogether. My mummy is a wise woman. I love my mum!

We only truly lose our loved ones when we forget what they were all about, their creativity, their life force, their love of life, fun, forget that they themselves were a force of nature. Good memories, good times!

Bringing my thoughts back to the forces of nature where so many people go through wild, weird and scary events on a daily basis, and there is no human control.

It is winter in less than a week and the weathery somersaults have only just started their acceleration path - there is more wet and cold to come!

But we are lucky because we have the opportunity of having a roof over our heads and stay indoors shielded from nature. Besides, it is only weather.

Not sure how to bring this all together except to say that life is life and it is mostly beautiful and wonderous and...

Luckily City of Angels is only a movie! And we still have life and love to share.

Live today, laugh today, and love today!

Empty and meaningless

Getting to a point where everything matters based on a point of non-attachment from any possible or impossible outcome must be the most peaceful place to be and act from.

There is no stress or tension because there are no expectations to the outcome of any situtation or event.

There is only the commitment to seeing things through, playing with life, as if life itself depended upon it, and still knowing that everything is fine.

Empty and meaningless. It doesn't mean that things don't matter or have substance or value it is only coming from a place of true unconditional essence without a need for an agenda or control of the situation.

A place where we all matter because we are, not because we have names, titles, money, jobs, possessions etc.!

Maybe it only makes sense to me or maybe I am just repeating myself from past weeks?

The other day I discussed a similar concept, 'letting go', and the question of how to know that we have in fact let go of what needs to be let go of...

Same with non-attachment. How do you know you have let go of the attachment to an outcome of a situation?

The moment when you are in love or when you truly love, and it's okay whatever the outcome of this love would be, because that love is part of your being and will always be there, then you can talk about unconditional love from a space of empty and meaningless.

I'm not quite there yet - except I am...sometimes...

This weekend I was in the presence of some extra-ordinary people who just enjoyed and loved the containment of likeminded souls, thoughts, spirits and hearts, and who shared that energy which was created from fun, love, sincere warmth and laughter without having to add anything except the pleasure of the company and space we shared.

We are all students of life and we are all teachers.

I hope life will never stop tickling your curiosity and that outcomes will become less important than the shared heart-space.

From non-attachment to any result it is easy to play with life and dance in the light of the moon!

Peace!

Purpose!

Begin each day as if it were on purpose! 

The purpose note sits just above by screen to catch my line of view when I raise my gaze to find inspiration.

Start with good intention and follow through - that's what it's about... It is not a thought but a feeling that is carried with you throughout the day, every day.

Everyone makes a difference in the lives we touch whether it is a positive or a negative we pass on and it takes 10 positives to outweigh a negative - at least that's what I heard years and years ago - so why not try the positive and not even needing to counterbalance any negatives?!

It struck me as we were going through the past week of Laughter Yoga Teacher Training that our society is full of senior people who have little but bingo as a regular activity week in and week out. Nothing wrong with bingo, by the way, it is just that it doesn't really move people and circulate them fully...

That is why it is so inspiring to hear every Laughter Professor's vision to create a different present and future through the use of Laughter Yoga.

We are the generation who is next in line for the Bingo-seats...is that really the outlook?

Get off your bottom and make every day count, make that connection with others and smile that smile of hope, reaching out with love instead of worry and concern. We are connected, advantaged, courageous and everything without 'dis'! We can overcome the unimaginable with ease and help each other remove 'dis' - when we trust and believe.

Miracles in every step.

I may have been carried away a bit in my praise of what is available to each and everyone of us but after a week of total trust in this process I have no doubt that there is opportunity, possibility and probability in this world.

Remember that people have gone there before us.

If no one is there to hear, see or learn - will it make a difference? Oh yes.

My everyday purpose is to spread peace, love, smiles and laughter! What is your purpose?

Reflection-noitcelfeR

17th December 2011 - few days before Winter Solstice

We are still some weeks away from Winter Solstice - the time of the shortest day and longest night.

Winter Solstice, a time for reflection!

My reflective mood has already kicked off or kicked in - although I am very very often in a reflective moor this seems to be in a different way than the (sometimes) lighter way I usually reflect.

It was a birthday reminder that brought memories to my mind and a tear to my eye - a friend who passed much too early three years ago. Bringing up thoughts of my loved ones who have passed.

And it happens all the time. Except it affects me differently when it is people I know, but that's just me...and you may feel the same way...or you may not.

Every time the world is touched uncontrollably by nature, as with the recent Hurricane Sandy, I always wish I could do some more than praying for the affected people and sending distance healing but that is what I do. However, when 'my people' are touched by dramatic changes in family, friendships and other important matters, I am ready to go on a crusade for love, health and justice.

Losing someone we love and care about is a huge deal and it doesn't get smaller with the years. Only the way we cope changes, and it becomes an everyday occurrence of a thought, a smile, a tear, a cry, a laugh, a reflection, a memory.

The festive seasons when memories are often strong is when the loss feels greater, like Yul Tide or Chrismas - as well as this time also being the dark, cold season.

This experience is no different for me than lots of other people I am guessing.

However, it is a time to celebrate what we have, what we had and what we are creating from the warmth and depth of our hearts. Time to let go of the troubled memories and look at the good times we had, bringing them into the present moment for the celebration of life.

My good friend was stabbed and nearly murdered two years ago which brings back some solid memories of grief and sadness, upsets and anger. She lived to tell the tale and although this time of year is a reminder for her of some hefty nasty moments, she is grateful every day for surviving and she makes the most of this life from a generous place.

If something is dragging you down - is it worth holding on to? Remember the good times, the good things, the good people, the good 'stuff'!

Embrace the light within every moment and every memory!

That's what our future is made of!

Just reflect on it - after Winter Solstice comes the time for renewal and for refreshing ideas!

Bring it on, 2013 - way beyond 21st December 2012!